A video journal about my particular journey through life.
Let it be insightful for you, if it feels right.
The root cause of emotion and suffering may be a story of tough times that you tell yourself. It is verified, in part, by dismissing what works in life, and focusing only on what feels bad. This may be your belief, that feeling good is the reward that you give yourself after solving all of your problems. Of couse focusing on what doesn't work is a self fulfilling feedback loop. It ensures that you keep feeling bad.
Are any of us effective operating from that felt sense?
If you want to take a step to break that loop, comment below on what worked today. Thanks
I will attempt to speak of boundaries without much esoteric or hidden reasoning. If that is objected to, then I will take on the esoteric considerations later. First I will speak to the following:
a. Radical boundary issues come from perceived exploitation.
b. But even family and friends generally “want something from us”.
c. Would it be possible to be clear and put these wants out on the table?
d. Maybe I have made the trade off of intimacy for security.
e. What are the keys to keep the door of close contact open?
I think that you can have a boundary with people and with a circumstance too. If there is just too much noise and commotion, people get uncomfortable. Some people are sensitive to noises and lights and agitatedly seek a calmer atmosphere.
I have read where autistic people hurt themselves until the physical pain is louder than the buzzing or droning in their head. They just can’t take that sensation anymore. I also just talked with a very normal, even successful man who reported that when a child, he found himself cutting is arm and stabbing himself for a relief from internal and external noises.
1. But let’s just consider the boundaries between people. Something is uncomfortable about the other. The most uncomfortable is the idea that I might be subject to exploitation. That person wants something from me. Maybe they are an authority figure and can put me into a difficult situation. Maybe they are much more persuasive than me, and I am unable to hold my ground against them. Something about our two persona's is very unequal. I feel overpowered.
Here's a taste of a breakthrough discussion
Yoke of Many Distorted Principles
Propelled to Discuss Life, What For?
Analytical human mind peers at life through lenses decorated by thoughts and so called lenses not decorated with thoughts. Is there really any difference? Is the latter have the same decorations as the former, all-be-it of a subtler variety.
What would happen to our life if we didn't believe in any difference? Some part of it would be simpler, and our focus might become more complete and whole.
98 minutes of discovery on these topics. With Giri Samudra and Jerome Pindell.
What a "truth teller" I find in Carlos. Both he and his honored relationship Bill live in a simple rhythm of being true to their immediate surroundings, and those closest to them. Nothing else is required. Yet a broad based past on the LA streets prepares him to meet with empathy absolutely all comers. If he doesn't turn through those circles at this time, one can see that he can and will. Love to him.
Reading Sally Anderson FreeFall
We make discoveries by relaxing the meaning, reasons and justifications we give in our lives. The urge to give meaning is actually how we make ourselves stuck in our in our apparent identity. Strange how we are more prone to give meaning to what is threatening than to what is pleasing. So our stuckness takes on a negative spin.
This relaxing of the temptation to give meaning allows new insights to come in. What I am discovering also becomes more apparent to me as I am able to give distinctions or words to what I see. And this condition also brings to my attention the works of others that have articulated what I am seeing, but in a better way than I can yet communicate.
I have been digesting Sally Anderson's book FREEFALL since late June and her words are exactly what I am ready to hear. See if they make sense to you as I read a few pages from this most powerful of books.
I have often said that 3-way dialogues with "every day people" are more rewarding for me that so called teacher interviews. Again this proves true as I believe we have reached a new softness in accepting and receiving each other. I stood in my heart throughout this conversation, not because of anything that I was doing, but because of who the three of us are in kindness, openness and acceptance.
Laura Simms, Freeing Stories, Antidote to Binding Stories
Sudden Story, a thread to build a life on
Perfect Example, Power of Words
I love this Activist and her Engagement
Let's emulate the life of Passion
In this video discussion AbiTiki and Jerome are sharing about finding a trust and a natural feeling of safety in life. Do we normally feel "safe", even while coming on the internet? So how will we ever construe the events in our life as safe? Witness this dialogue.