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Our new experiment is to find if there are natural barriers between people when there are no expectations held by them. This Topic is now called "Open Mic" and located under the Archives Tab "Open Mic Friends".

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What’s the Value of Exercise?

1. When we talk about the physical body we might say “use it or loose it”.  Even the school systems all have a physical training regimen.  That does tone the body, but it also serves to show young students that there are winners and losers in the world, and it helps them to place themselves in that hierarchy.

If you already have an active occupation, maybe you don’t need exercise, or you can work those muscle groups that are not part of your typical daily movement.  Or if you are physically or mentally exhausted, maybe long running or jogging will put your mind on just breathing, and you will unwind in that way.

One characteristic of this exercise is that it is energy spent that you do not get paid for, (unless you are a coach).

2. We also say that it pays to keep your mind active, do crossword puzzles, play cards and games with friends, play memory games.  This might qualify as exercise in that it is unpaid labor.

Reading is good, but it gives a payback, since it broadens thought and perhaps has a possibility to broaden your life.

3. What about talking?  Do we need to flap our jaw or risk premature ageing?  I think that it might be the other way around, that mindless flapping proves that we are already ageing. We are spending our attention contemplating sequences of words, that when put together make no possible difference to our (or anyone else’s) life.  Words are just sounds.  It is astute sequences of words that is useful thought.  Useful thought begins with an astute question.  To get a good question, many mediocre questions must be discarded.

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Human Motivation

We might believe that there are many varied motivations that inspire us to do what we do, and especially if we hold ourselves in high regard we may think that our personal motivations are very sophisticated and honorable.  Thus we complicate and obscure the most simple. (If you're personally convinced that there is no "you" to be motivated, go to point six.)


I would find it of great value to bring the motivation equation down to the most simple terms, or to the lowest common denominator.  

  • First we are motivated into action by a feeling.  
  • If there was no feeling, nothing would appear on the radar of our awareness.
  • (In this regard, our status quo is also a feeling.)
  • We find ourselves acting to satisfy that feeling, to prolong it or to make it go away.  
  • Therefore I think it can be said that we act only to fix our lives.  At least try this definition on for size while reading this post.
  • Then the different “tastes” of action become defined from our belief structures.

Let’s just pull in real tight so that we have a concrete example, and talk about what motivates us to post on this forum.  We read a post, “Oh, is that what he thinks about that?  Interesting.”

Anthony Tarsitano's Movie: "Calling It Quits" Open Mic 26

 Anthony sent me the movie that he made and we talked about how to tell an "alternative story".  This would be a deeper look at what could possibly drive the world as we know and experience it.  In other words, how can we see a bigger picture of life, when we constantly are looking from the contracted smaller picture.  It just does not show up in that limited vision.

I applaud his movie for putting the cards on the table, to look at the satisfactions and dis-satisfactions of life, in an honest way.  I think that we are both wanting to build on this model.  We both want to find deeper and better ways to approach a wider more inclusive consciousness.

I am doing it with with interviews and dialogues, and Anthony shares that he is already working on new projects.  You can support his work by investigating and purchasing his movie.


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Ken Jablonski, Friendship 25

Ken called and wanted to share.   I find it amazing that what he says corresponds directly with where I want to go with NNH.

He is looking at the stress that always seems inherent in grave and unexpected loss.  His message is that you can know that the stress is really not necessary in that progression of life called deep loss.  He has known that through a series of "signs" that he received.  

I asked if we even need to wait for a sign, and that we can just see that stress is a habit that adds nothing to life.

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Marilyn Strong. Friendship 24

Marilyn is involved in women's work, and performs both weddings and home funeral ceremonies.  Marilyn resonates with the magic of the sacred ceremony. 


Of course it is not my "duty" to believe whatever our guests are into.  Neither do I want to come off as dismissing it.  

Many people believe in the importance of hope, for instance.  (Not Marilyn).  Many others search for ultimate knowledge of a meaning in life.  The search for meaning and the ultimate finding of it is an important part of living.  I guess that I believe meaning is always an overlay.  Then it could never be fundamental to living a quality life.  I called it "decorations".  I hope that I was not too hard on Marilyn.  What a great experience it is to "walk softly".

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Lauren Schlenger and Jenny Jensen, Friendship 23

Lauren and Jenny give their reflections from the SIG retreat.  It is quite a community in Raleigh NC.  I am honored to be a part of it.

I pushed these ladies hard.   I want to know. What is it that can be obvious, without the "seeds" planted by conditioning and expectation?  Where should I take my small part of this teaching?  Maybe they know?


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Just a Story, we say, talk with Filmmakers on Friendship 22

Steven and Whitney Boe are both actors, writers, directors and producers, so they understand the movie business from all sides.  Never Not Here is definitely telling a story.  So we are always fascinated by storytelling and what can be received and what seems difficult to promulgate.

Non-duality, from our perspective, is a story about no stories, that doesn't really hit home for very many people.  Could it be that there is a better way to tell it?  That is what we are all about.

I couldn't get my interest away from the movie technicalities for some time, but I was able to introduce some way to "say it", (which I called a humility lesson).  Steve and Whitney are not your typical Advaitist "in-crowd".  What did they take away from this interchange?  That is the important experiment that NNH is conducting.


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Friendship 21, with Sarojini

We talked of a full circle, the imbibing of who I really am, and not getting stuck, but bringing that experience back to life as it appears on this planet.  Why not?  What other game is there?  No other kind of caution is needed.

For my money, these "Open Mic" dialogues are as clear or more clear than any satsang.  Sure, dialogues have concepts too, but these concepts do not mislead anyone.  There are no Hooks.  "Satsang-talk" is often a big can of worms.

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Friendship 20, with Marie (Mari) Cadman

Mari Cadman is living in Brisbane Australia.   We talked of everything from breaking a horse to nursing babies in a hospital.  What is clear is that there are no words for the undifferentiated whole that life is.  

Yet Mari feels to write, and has a yen to share this new experience.  Life is a "field" Mari says.  I like that description.

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Friendship 19, with Benjamin Smythe

More Open than Ben?  Doesn't appear too often.  Is it a benediction to self and those around?  I see it as yes.  When we can see ourselves and our reflection in others, all possibilities flood in.  That is when life seems to "just take care".